But the time played me a dirty trick, when one day my husband and I we were going to the beach, I started to worry about my house, which this ignite and that my children will die. I felt so uncomfortable to have that feeling, that we had to turn around and return. I knew then that I had to do something about it. As he had begun to examine the causes of the concern, I understood that people who go through the same thing, believe that if they maintain that nothing bad feeling it will happen them. My mother lived his life concerned and none of the bad things that thought, passed.
She came to the conclusion that nothing wrong happened, because I lived concerned. He really believed that he could control things with his concern. My father, however, was never concerned about things, and nothing bad happened. My mother, however, thought that nothing bad happened to my father, because of his concern. She believed until the day of his death (who died because of heart problems, was perhaps caused by that constant feeling) that if it failed to unsettle, all come down.
My father currently has 92 years, and lives without feeling anxiety. It is not easy to stop feeling it, when you spent much of life suffer the permanent anxiety. So my mind to stop all this back, I had to admit that the belief of the concern, had control over the results in my life, that was not a great illusion. I needed to see, not just that feeling was a waste of time, but it could have serious negative consequences on my health, my well-being. Once I realized it, I noticed it in my stomach and my teeth, which pushed them everytime you had that feeling. Carol is in the process of learning. She knows that her concern, makes it feel very anxious and depressed, but at the moment she learns to transform your energy, do not feel so tired like when felt that anxiety. When he manages to calm down you can project into the future, making it feel much better. The key to Carol is stop this anguish, OK that concern should not control it to her. Relinquish control of that feeling that us damaged, is not easy, especially for people living concerned. However, there is an interesting paradox in relation to the concern. I’ve discovered that when I am in the present, I have a better chance to make decisions that cause me a great well-being, and the chance of a future. Worry prevents us from taking control of our emotions hindering the present. The concern in practice, ends up taking control of our lives, but we must transform this feeling. Original author and source of the article.